Dear Potential Customer,
As your Fairy Godmother, it is my wish for you to live happily ever after. While my goal is to help you choose the perfect gown, I also want you to be aware of the choice you make in the person you decide to marry. Please read the following before buying a wedding gown or going any further with your wedding plans. If you recognize any of these warning signs, listen to that little voice in your head telling you not to get married. It’s not too late to get help. If none of these things apply to you< and your potential spouse, then congratulations! I am so happy for you and appreciate the opportunity to help you find your dream gown. Remember that your wedding is one of the most wonderful days of your life. Every woman deserves to be treated like a princess.
15 Reasons to Leave Your Lover, Warning Signs of an Abusive Personality
Something’s just not right in your relationship, and you can’t put your finger on it. So here’s some help. If your mate is displaying a combination of these behaviors, then you may have a potential batterer on your hands.
- Quick Involvement
Comes on strong, claiming, “I’ve never felt loved like this by any one.” Pressures you for an exclusive commitment almost immediately.
Extremely possessive, calls constantly, or visits unexpectedly.
- Controlling Behavior
Interrogates you intensely about whom you talked to and where you were, checks mileage on your car, keeps all the money, insists you ask for permission go anywhere or do anything.
- Unrealistic Expectations
Expects you to be perfect and meet their every need.
Tries to cut you off from family and friends; deprives you of a phone or car; tries to prevent you from holding a job.
- Blames Others for Problems
It’s always someone else’s fault-the boss, their parents, you-if anything goes wrong. Everyone is out to get them.
- Blames Others for Feelings
Always saying, “You’re hurting me by not doing what I tell you” or “You make me angry” instead of “I’m angry”.
Is easily insulted. They’ll rant about injustices that are part of life.
- Cruelty to Animals and Children
Kills or punishes animals brutally. Also, may expect children to do things way beyond their ability, or tease them until they cry.
- Playful use of Force During Sex
Enjoys throwing you down or holding you down against your will during sex says they find the idea of rape exciting.
- Verbal Abuse
Constantly criticizes you or says cruel things; degrades, curses, calls you ugly names.
- Rigid Sex Roles
Expects you to serve, obey, and remain at home.
- Sudden Mood Swings
Switches from sweet and loving to explosively violent in a matter of minutes.
- Past Battering
Admits to hitting women or other partners in the past but says the other person or the situation caused it.
- Threats of Violence
Makes statements such as “I’ll break your neck,” then says, “I didn’t really mean it.”
*source: Legal Aid Society of Middle Tennessee and the project for victims of Family Violence, Fayetteville, Arkansa